A healthy relationship is all about compromise- here is my question:
How does a person know when its his time to bend to the other partner?
You can't say that I have to bend all the time because then its not a compromising relationship.
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That's a good question. How much does a person need to compromise in a relationship?
I looked up compromise on dictionary.com which defines compromise as:
A settlement of differences in which each side makes concessions.
So basically if you are the only one making adjustments then it's not a compromise at all!
Clearly gender roles and the ideal division of power in any relationship is a subjective issue but for me equality is the way to go. If one partner is always getting his/her way while the other is always giving in clearly the balance of power is well.... unbalanced!
Sometime it feels like we are always making concessions, but in a healthy relationship both partys are always assessing how their words and actions will affect their partner- it's called sensitivity. There needs to be a balance between considering what your partner wants and needs and letting him/her know what YOU need. If there is open communication rather than a lot of guessing and speculation the chances are a lot better both of you will get a least some of what you want.