Mirty pulls my blog out of a coma with this question:
Is it OK for a shul rabbi to be really snippy with his congregants? What if he makes someone cry? Berates the Bar Mitzvah boy's cousin? At what point do you say, I know he's a talmud chachom, but someone has to tell him to stop! And how do you get him to change?
Oooh this is a tough one. I'm guessing this is no hypothetical question either...
Some congregations think their Rabbis walks on water (excuse the expression) but most keep an eye out for things that need to be kept in check.
In every shul the Rabbi should have someone to answer to (be it the board or directors, or the congregation itself) and those are the people that should be letting the Rabbi know his behavior is out of line. It's very difficult to get a person to change their nature. Perhaps the Rabbi is going through a hard time personally or is frustrated is his position. The best you can hope for is for him to change specific behaviors that are upsetting the kehilla.
Has the Rabbi always been this way?
Do the people around you seem to accept it as normal or want to change it?
If you have support it should be much easier to affect change. While I know that community leaders are only human (of course) it still saddens me to hear about Jewish leadership alienating their fellow Jews.